My opinion about gay marriage is that this was never an equal rights or human dignity issue. It was always about the definition of marriage, that is, in the etymology of the word and concept. In the social and humane sense , no one wants to deny equal rights to anyone.
The word marriage means the joining of two opposites; two polarities coming together, as in when you create anything. Even with electrical currents or magnetic charges, it’s always a + with a -. Never in the entire universe of physics will a + and + or a – and – be called marriage. This is something that physicists, scientists and even techies will agree upon, even in rudimentary terms, that in any connection there is always a male and a female part. That is the essence of the word “marriage”. As far as equal rights, the victim-minded will always turn the issue into what it isn’t. Call it something else, if you will. You can even call it gay marriage which differentiates it from marriage in the common usage of the word.
Are people that dense to not know or be concerned about the specifics and distinguishing factors of what the argument is really about? “I’m for”; “I’m against”. What exactly are they for or against? What are the distinctions? There is a distinct difference between the concepts of “equal” and “same”. Those two are not synonymous with each other. Even in geometry, proof sets illustrate that similar and equal are not identical. What can be given equal value may not be the same. So while you are different in certain aspects and certain attributes, and you have fought all your life to show the rest of the world just how different you are, and to accept your difference, then why fight for the same? You can have equal – no one will deny you that. But please understand that the concept will always be different, not the same. I can say in all surety that nobody wishes to prevent unions between loving partners in any case. It may not be accepted within certain circles, but that is choice. The issue is with changing the definition of a condition that is based on cosmic laws, be it divine or scientific. It’s about semantics not civil or equal rights.
While the whole issue trending this nation is being referred to as Gay Marriage or Same-Sex Marriage, so why not call it “Gay Marriage License” on your certificate? That this controversy is already different in its intrinsic value is undeniable, just as your rights to civil liberties and the pursuit of happiness are. And while we’re in the flow of this current, giving tribute to Mother’s Day being today, will some same-sex parent families never celebrate this day? And will some never celebrate Father’s Day? Or will they both, as it get cloudier in the mix? I can foresee the day when children of gay parents become activists for changing Mother’s and Father’s Day to Parent’s Day because that just wouldn’t be fair to a whole new set of victim-minded off-shoots of this issue. (I can just see that coming, can’t you? It’s all part of prism-thinking and playing the movie all the way to the end!)
And in another facet of this gem of an issue, if heterosexual couples who choose not to enter the sanctity of matrimonial unions, to just live together are not concerned with spousal rights as an issue of detriment, then why should any other group of people? Anyone who has ever made a choice on any life-changing issue has always done so with the understanding that some things may have to be forfeited, lost or abandoned. In return there are things to be gained. This is how we weigh the odds and evens, the pros and the cons. And by the way, not everyone has to be in acceptance of every decision each and every one of us makes. This is what free will is. This is what freedom of choice is. This is what individual thought is.
So in closing, and in the spirit of this blog’s title, is it a plus or a minus – is it male or female, is it a gain or a loss, what do I get and what do I give up? Think about marriage and think of it in the letter of the law and the spirit of the law. See if you gain different perspectives of how the complexities may be simplified and how the simplicities are more complex than we are lead to believe.