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Archive for April, 2011

Permission Granted, or Access Denied?

What is the secret formula for having the life you desire? A life of abundant blessings of love, joy, good health, success, peace and prosperity.  After all, I daresay that this is what most humans pray for, wish for and dream about.  Why is it that many of us just seem to be banging our heads against the wall trying desperately to achieve the things we most desire? We pray, chant mantras, having faith and believing that all things are possible to those who learn and evolve with the appropriate intention, actions and beliefs. What have we forgotten about ourselves, when we believe with all positivity, persevere with determination, and yet something deep down, a hidden negative belief, doubts, insecurity seem to rear their ugly heads and seep into our positive thought and energy?

I was thinking intently about this and I realized—free will! We forget that we humans have free-will and there’s something really powerful about acknowledging and exercising this God-given gift.  While being sensitive to different dimensional energies around us, I noticed a change in my neurology when I state my intention regarding what energies I DO NOT give permission to affect me.  I noticed that this is the thing that many do not understand when suddenly faced with the fact that there may be other energies around us that we actually interact with daily.  Many people take the victim role and fear the possibility of some other forces “doing something to them”.  Friends, we have free-will, exercise it! We let whatever negative energy we are faced with know that it does not have our permission to mess with us!

So then, what happens when we pray for things we want? Do we pray, chant, repeat and hope we will be blessed with and hopefully manifest what we want? Do we actually give permission for these things to come into our lives? Once you’ve given permission, you’ve cleared the path.  The intent and the words are important and specific, “I give you permission to show me the way and send me these blessings, God, Spirit, my angels, guides, my Higher Self, my honored family elders of blessed memory who continue to inspire…”

In the coaching work my husband Jeff and I do, when our clients make the commitment to proceed with the change-work they ask for, they are essentially doing this.  The many role models whose success strategies we observe and emulate, they have done this too.  Whether by pure intent, belief change, behavior modification, calls to action, they have given permission for this good to fill their lives and by their intent focus on their goals, they have shut out the negative.  We also often hear about giving ourselves permission.  To love, to enjoy the goodness of life’s offerings without guilt or destructive behavior that keeps us in our own way.  We have to also give the universe permission to provide for us all the opportunities and gifts it can bestow.  No control, no fear of lack, just permission. It’s one of life’s A-HA moments.

Seems easy enough doesn’t it? The formula was never really a formula. It is and always has been for us to remember our free-will, which is our responsibility to decide to what and whom we give permission to affect our lives.  Remember how the universe flows and how we are all connected in some way, and perhaps in more ways even beyond our comprehension.  What if this free-will is the most powerful and profoundly simple gift we have? We would never know how we co-create and partner with God, Creator, Spirit or whatever your spiritual beliefs, if we remain in a victim or submissive mentality.  If we believe that we are at the mercy of random forces that have power over us, then we let anything in and our lives will be a hit-or-miss play of the things we want, things we don’t and things to which we didn’t realize we had given permission.

In your own life-design, take an active step towards intent and your exercise of free-will.  Give permission to what you want and deny access to what you don’t, and then let it go, let it flow, see how it plays out. Remember when choosing, to play out your movie to the end. When you begin to pay attention and see the pattern of how things work, take it and pay it forward. Remind others to remember.

Molecular Gastronomy – Quantum Food for the Senses

When you think about the latest and increasing trend in culinary adventure you might consider the very innovative molecular gastronomy.  When I first learned about molecular gastronomy and watched several known culinary authorities on various food shows partake of the unusual cuisine with delight, I was very curious.  Mainly about how tiny little morsels in exclusively artistic presentations could actually satisfy and further, how this would play on our senses.

Molecular gastronomy, utilizing scientific processes in chemistry and physics, changes the way one perceives food, from conception and culinary technique, to the whole dining experience on the receiving end of this spectrum.  This technique combines the physical and chemical processes in cooking and transforms ingredients into an absolute epicurean phenomenon.

Upon becoming more accustomed to this technique, as you can see on shows such as Quantum Kitchen, I realized that what molecular gastronomists like Chef Marcel Vigneron do mostly is to take the most basic of foods, along with specific natural catalysts, transforming them in their essence, so that we the receivers of this culinary extravaganza may enjoy the benefit of savoring every flavor, aroma and texture fused into a single mouthful. It is an absolute overwhelm to our senses. It got me thinking that with the skills learned in NLP and DHE™, we already know how to retrain our brains and have the ability to do this using ourselves as a catalyst in the process. Further, what feelings could these trigger for us as an extended multi-sensorial event?

This technique doesn’t only enhance our palates. Here are just a few examples of what molecular gastronomy is about, according to Peter Barham, Professor of Molecular Gastronomy, UK and author of  The Science of Cooking.

  •  How ingredients are changed by different cooking methods
  • How all the senses play their own roles in our appreciation of food
  • The mechanisms of aroma release and the perception of taste and flavor
  • How and why we evolved our particular taste and flavor sense organs and our general food likes and dislikes
  • How cooking methods affect the eventual flavor and texture of food ingredients
  • How new cooking methods might produce improved results of texture and flavor
  • How our brains interpret the signals from all our senses to tell us the “flavor” of food
  • How our enjoyment of food is affected by other influences, our environment, our mood, how it is presented, who prepares it, etc.

Within the transformation, there also lies the element of expectation and surprise. What most connoisseurs will expect from the visual aspect, combined with any aromas around the dish certainly is unfathomable at first. Then when it is finally tasted, the alchemy of  flavors, and textures complete the heightened dining experience, pleasantly surprising all expectations.

It is a complicated and creative process that requires a credible knowledge of science. On a simpler note, the ability to transform your simplest food into a phenomenal experience for the senses is literally at your fingertips.  Using all of our senses in the experience requires us to be fully aware, present and in the moment. We can all do this automatically!

When my husband Jeff works with clients who have food phobias, he does just this. Along with having them taste individual foods, noticing the different textures, aromas, visual appeal; to take a moment and ask themselves if they a) like it and b) if they’re not yet sure, what it would be like to pair it with something else—something they’ve already discovered that they like or perhaps something new.  The results each individual experiences opens up a whole world for each of them, extending all the way to social breakthroughs. (*Getting them beyond the fear of tasting is of course a whole other skill set and cure.)

After all what is the essence of molecular gastronomy? An infusion of this, a concentration of that, along with a whole array of scientific knowledge and experimentation, and you end up with a bite-sized cheese burger bon bon, pizza in a frothy foam or a single-shot jellied vichyssoise, all packed with every component that would go into the actual meal—a futuristic meal you might say.  In comparison, doing this on your own minus the scientific process, as I wrote about in A Layered Dish Is More Than It Is, internalizing and understanding the blending of every morsel that touches your palate and enjoying them with all your senses creates our own artist’s easel and will undoubtedly give you a phenomenal epicurean experience every time.


Is All Fair in Love and War – and In-Between?

The other day I came across an article in the Washington Post by Charles Krauthammer about Hillary Clinton’s comment of praise regarding a known tyrant of a Middle-Eastern country, President Assad of Syria. The article was about how mixed remarks about clear objectives can cause confusion within our foreign policies.  This blog of course isn’t about our foreign policies or politics. It got me to thinking about diplomacy in terms of everyday choices we make in how we interact or convey our public views and personas. Is diplomacy fairness? Is it appeasement? Is it an avoidance of confrontations? Is it a need to secure future bridges? How clear or cloudy does it become?

Being fair isn’t about pleasing all sides or not taking any.  Being fair requires us to make a judgment, albeit a favorable one.  What does this mean, to judge favorably?  It means that regardless of what you are in favor or to what you oppose, your decision has to come from a place of knowing all the parts and sum of the parts, and their effects. Being fair is acknowledging the pros and the cons, doing the simple mathematics of the pluses and the minuses, and making a judgment call based on this.  And whose view is this based on? Yours, of course.  You may gain support with some and you may not with others. Feelings may be hurt, but others have the right to exercise this responsibility too.  No it’s not a whim or a frivolous fancy, it is a responsibility.

How do you feel about the concepts of judgment, justice, fairness and mercy? In today’s world are these just merely dogmas or are they to be incorporated into our everyday lives? What do you perceive of them each in their own merit and now, how do you feel when you combine them with say, attributes of wisdom, knowledge, understanding and even loving-kindness?  How does it feel to you when you combine justice with mercy? Or judgment with wisdom? How about knowledge with kindness? How much of an investment in these would you need in order to part the layers of chaos and confusion?  How would you enlighten and educate others with your view without the attached emotions and feelings of defensiveness? How do you balance your passion with your fear of being challenged and threatened? Defensiveness, fear and the vitriol sometimes attached—these are useless emotions that serve as barriers to true wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

In your prism view, the facets are like windows into another world, or another’s world and from which other realities can stem.  You can look in and learn; you don’t always have to embrace everything about them. They offer us an expansion in dimensional views so that we can make the best choices for us and those we love with less limitation.  Remember everything is connected in some way and every action or lack of action has its own ripple effect. When you next hear someone say things like, “It’s not fair”, “It’s cruel”, “It’s wonderful”, “It’s much needed”; remember to ask to whom, whose version and from whose perspective are you making that judgment call?

While it’s true that concepts of right and wrong, good and bad are something relative to the observer, awareness of how this relativity relates to others is an important and even valuable understanding.  It always seems that when the lines become fuzzy, we cross over into confusion. When we seek to please and appease the masses, however your masses are comprised, we run the risk of clouding our core knowledge of right and wrong, and then our judgment. On the other side, when our strong beliefs are attached to fear and loss we lose sight of our pure intention. Sometimes we are the mirrors that reflect others. When we look at ourselves, what and whom else do we honestly see reflected? When you make choices based on your fairness-meter, consider what comprises your beliefs and core understanding of your subject and look into your dimensional prism to compare the ripple effects of how you decide. It really could be more than an eye-opener in a life wake-up moment.

Is Your Movie Reel?

As I was channel surfing one afternoon looking for something to pique my inspiration, I came across a magazine show on NBC called Daily Connection where the segment dealt with overweight issues.  The title was “Big But Not So Beautiful”, featuring the many cultures that are now focusing more on health aspects of unhealthy weight.  One of the co-hosts asked the other what she thought of such an issue.  The other answered so devoid from an opinion that it was laughable! She said something like, “Whether you’re small or large you should stay within the frame that’s best for you.” I mean was she trying to stay neutral so as not to offend?

So it got me thinking… saying or doing the right thing is something that our own moral compass navigates us towards.  Is it political correctness or is it an ethical correctness? Within the prism of our lives there lie facets of what we perceive as light and dark with many shades of grey in between. How many shades of grey are you willing to navigate through before you decide where you stand? If you were to add the colors that are within your prismic light how much clearer would that be for you? Would you be able to see the flaws? This time think of your prism as the lens of a movie camera, filming your movie. How are you playing out your movie?

Taking a stand on anything requires first and foremost, adequate information, accurate knowledge of the history, the progression of the subject and a clear idea about your preferred outcome. A clear idea of your preferred outcome requires different perspectives on what life would be like with and without that outcome. You add in the various dimensional elements and play out your movie to the end and then make your decision. Remember to not only add the visual aspects to your moving pictures, but also sounds, smells and feelings. Then virtually step in and then see and hear yourself in it, feel what you would feel. If your movie is fuzzy then brighten it.  Look at the shadowed areas and shine your light. If the sound is muffled, adjust it.

Many poor decisions are made and causes are fought without playing this multi-dimensional movie till the end, or appropriately changing its attributes. The important steps it will take to get you there are often left out in chunks and when we finally get what we asked for we say something like, “I didn’t ask for this!” But did we? Lack of clarity and lack of understanding will often be the deciding factors on how we get what we think we didn’t ask for.  We didn’t realize that our lenses may have been flawed so that we could play out the alternative plots.

When I studied and then worked in the film industry for many years, one of the things I learned about making a movie was that every piece of equipment used required constant checking and calibration. So why not calibrate your own thinking equipment? Check your lens, make sure your aperture opening is acceptable and that your exposure is appropriate. Calibrate your focus, balance your grayscale and tune up your color spectrum. After all, it’s your movie—wouldn’t you want to make it the best one possible?

Guest Blog: Is This What Democracy Looks Like?

By Jeff Schoener, the NLP Wordsmythe

This sounds catchy and easy to chant in public* and calls forth a single modality – Visual.   So, ‘What does democracy sound like?’ and ‘How does democracy feel?’ should be logical questions if one were to take but a moment.  In order for one to answer any of the above questions, one must understand the perspectives in which one perceives this thing called democracy.

Merriam-Webster’s definition: Democracy

  1. a form of government in which people choose leaders by voting
  2. an organization or situation in which everyone is treated equally and has equal rights

The concept is defined only with specific perceptions.

What if others would see democracy through American cowboy movies?

In October 2001, I went to Egypt.  I was quite surprised when the Egyptians who wanted to connect with me in order to separate me from my money would ask, “Where are you from?’  As it was less then one month from September 11th, I cautiously replied, “America.”  They immediately responded, “Howdy!”  At first I was surprised until I began to understand that Egyptians perception of America came directly from western movies and television shows.   John Wayne and Lone Ranger democracy consisted of an attitude, a fast gun, a fist of justice and simple talk.  The color of one’s hat would indicate just which side of the law you lived.  This was simple and shades of grey were never truly discussed.  Real governing bodies are far more complex.

As it turns out, I learned that there are many different organizational varieties of democracy.  Here are a few that I found in the web that may contain some grey areas:

  • Deliberative democracy – focuses on hearing out every policy alternative, from every direction, and providing time to research them all.
  • Multiparty democracy – two-party system requires voters to align themselves in large blocs, sometimes so large that they cannot agree on any overarching principles.
  • Totalitarian democracy – system of government in which lawfully elected representatives maintain the integrity of a nation state whose citizens, while granted the right to vote, have little or no participation in the decision-making process of the government.
  • Religious democracy – values of religion play a role in the public arena in a society populated by religious people.
  • New Democracy – Maoist concept based on Mao Tse Tung’s “Bloc of Four Classes” theory in post-revolutionary China.

Internet video sites will show parliamentary procedure from around the globe that uncannily resembles Professional Wrestling.  Please now consider how different opinions are reflected in terms of art and culture on government as well as government on culture and art.

Based upon my experience and understanding, I ask you the following:

What if others would see democracy through Soap Operas? Would you hear campaign promises belted out in a foreign language?

What if others would see democracy through Comedies? Would arguments be clever repartee or would slapstick motion prevail?

What if others would see democracy through Interpretative Dance? Urban jazz, Ballet, Soft-Shoe or Tap

What if others would see democracy through Musicals? Maybe a combination of song and dance?

What does it now look like to you?

After considering the above, I personally would have difficulty joining in on the drone of chant.  Instead images come to mind.  Imagine a subtle opening musical score.

Picture three or four overweight, out-of-shape politicians wearing large floppy shoes, purple tights and pink tutus sporting Viking helmets, holding shields singing Rodney Dangerfield’s jokes in falsetto voices.

Now, this is what democracy looks like to me.

This perspective also allows me to take an extra moment in order to think for myself before I join in.  My suggestion is that we shift from being ‘Politically Correct’ and with humor, strive to be ‘Correctly Political’.

* A Quick Note: Chanting is useful in terms of group-think.  This is an extremely useful tool for cult indoctrinations.