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Are We Ready For the Freedom of Relativity?

While this blog offers perspectives that help open up our world, giving us more dimensionality, the theory of relativity is no longer a theory, but a reality we experience everywhere.  The universe is relative, Einstein told us, and true at that. Relativism, when embraced and realized gives way to literally mind-flipping possibilities.  Possibilities and potential that perhaps our Creator knew that while on Earth, the duality of our current state cannot be completely understood until we would have evolved into another state of being and thus of awareness and acceptance.  Quite an opener, isn’t it?

While the universe is relative as are we, there are laws on which it runs. At the same time we were also given laws for several reasons.  We have all heard of the states of order and chaos within the universe haven’t we?  The universe runs on laws to maintain order and avoid chaos.  Relativism offers us infinite possibilities which if rendered without responsibility will wreak havoc on our lives.  We see this more and more every day, whether or not you have noticed.

We as a species have grown and gained much over millennia, but have we enough? We seek today, to be our own lord and master, yet have we gained the infinite perspectives within our limited state to claim that in its entirety?  Can we fully comprehend the enormous scope of this knowledge of relativity? Do we understand that with the freedom that knowledge of relativity brings, comes also a vast responsibility in governing ourselves? Yes we may defy laws; we may rationalize about why they are unnecessary, who created them, we may make excuses that satisfy and comfort our ego. But let’s really face the fact that the universal laws we are required to live by help us maintain some aspect of order and balance.  We may attempt to defy some laws or at least defy within the frame-work, we may attempt to push the thresholds; but everything that we ultimately protest or abide in our lives reside within the spectrum between order and chaos – good and evil, right and wrong, positive and negative, light and dark.  We may also sometimes tend to swing the pendulum too far the other way, often forfeiting balance for our own ego’s irresponsible wants, sometimes placing inappropriate obligation, and sometimes relinquishing accountability, holding us even more hostage to our situations than the freedom that having relative perspectives truly offers.

Who are we then, to dispute the universal laws of balance, even as we perceive of ourselves as specks of dust in the primordial soup or as infinitely great as God itself? Without this responsibility, even the logistics of aerodynamics within the framework of the law of gravity would fail; if we don’t abide the rules within the movement of air, gravity will pull us down; and if we go too far we would float about aimlessly.  What would happen if the oceans of the world or the planets in our solar system decided that they didn’t need rules and laws just because it was relative to them and they had choices that their free-will compelled them to exercise? Take away the appropriate obligation and there would be chaos.

As with mighty empires that have fallen throughout recorded and unrecorded history, as worlds begin and end like the fabled Lemuria or even Atlantis, what if worlds as we knew them would end as we have forged on ahead of ourselves, so far ahead as to put ourselves in front of the yet unexplained or more appropriately, unfathomed mysterious forces which hold us together?  Are we to dispose of the pieces of hardware that came with the do-it-yourself piece just because they weren’t clearly indicated in the instructions? Someone who is familiar with the design and rules of carpentry might know better and help you put the pieces together.  Maybe we should be holding on to those pieces until we can understand how and where they fit, and always keep asking, “Is that all there is?”

Appropriate asked by the illustrious Peggy Lee…

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Finding Gems in the Mire: An Exercise in Learning

Today I get to present to you new perspectives on learning.  I realized after beginning to write about another topic that due to an incident which occurred this week that kept gnawing at my noodle, I had to write about it instead.  The question begs, how much do we really take in when we’re closed up? In order to present fresh perspectives on learning with a “multi-faceted view” I have to give you some kind of background about this incident with a “tunnel view”.

There is a Facebook page that I had followed that promoted some good values on defending against hatred, violence and anti-Semitism on the internet.  They had been posting some good links and thoughts which I thought were informative and felt was a good message in educating others.  However this week they posted something that was inconsistent with what they had in the past. Now mind you, it wasn’t really the actual subject of the post that was the issue. I will mention that it was a rant about a polarizing public figure.  Now I have no objection to anyone exercising an opinion with the intent to educate openly and effectively.  The thing that bothered me was the inclusion to the rant that anyone on their page who supported, defended or rationalized this figure or opposed the opinion of the Page would be banned.  In addition they also proceeded to disrespectfully name-call and label their fans and supporters who had some opposing views or questioning doubts.

This shook me up a little as I suddenly had a slew of thoughts about how this type of one-sided, closed-minded perspective from anyone is the least effective in the mission of true educating.  This was not a forum for open discussions and respectful debate.  Contrarily this was a shutdown of all other thoughts that were different from that of the Page.  I perceived immediately the difference between educating on different levels and promoting a single-faceted limiting view. Immediately following this they posted something about how their fan base decreased by over 100 because of speaking out against this figure, despite fan comments about how they instead felt their opinions were attacked merely for expressing them, followed by more rude name-calling on the Page’s part.

I decided to comment that fans were dropping out because of their intolerance of other opinions and not because of their views about the polarizing figure of Glenn Beck.  They deleted my post.  Next there were several more posts by them, who were now over 200 fans less, berating their “fake supporters” as “stupid”, “ignorant” and “idiots”.  I once again, commented about how they were missing the point and compared it to a point of sale where they were not understanding the real objections of their “customers”.  I also mentioned a few other things I observed that could get their message across more effectively, basically changing their approach which I felt was causing the massive drove of fan drop-out.  They didn’t like my perspectives—they banned me from their site.  But not before I actually received several “likes” on my comment itself!

The point of this is if you want to inform others, influence them with factual, honest education, sell them on an idea or concept, you have to first allow yourself the opportunity to be open to listening, expanding your own perception, accommodate and address objections with more information that will get your message across. There is a point in communication when the recipient at the other end of the name-calling and labeling stops listening, blocking out all possible essential information coming in.

In NLP Persuasion Engineering™ we learn and we teach, that helping produce positive brain chemistry opens up new neuro-cortical pathways, opening up new paths to learning and making new positive patterns while negative brain chemistry closes us down to further learning, taking us down the same neuro cortices, engaging the same old patterns. When we are flexible rather than rigid in our approach to our customers or our public we can match them on greater levels.  When essential elements are not being matched between seller and buyer, often communication is severed.  When people are feeling good and expressing their needs, we become more open and we make better decisions; we also become open to more information and learning. The opposite of this is impedance and a mental shutdown.

In this case, if the administrators of the Facebook page had expanded their own views, perceptions and exercised flexibility, they might have learned that not only was their approach the wrong one for their cause, but also that the “objections” they received in the form of varied opinions may have been a call for simple but necessary further education of their fan-base or public.  Having a better understanding of, and matching their personal expectations to that of their fan-base would have opened the doors to better communication. Now how would you respond in this case, to these different elements of persuasion – hard sell vs. soft sell; invitation vs. provocation; seduction vs. force?

The fact is we can learn from every situation, everyone is our teacher if we just look beyond the mire and see the gem. You will experience for yourself that when you keep yourself open, you open up your own path to growth and you will not only learn something new, but you’ll get to teach someone else something new too.  I am exceedingly grateful for the lesson I received within the adversity of even this simple incident, presenting me with another opportunity to perceive more, open my own filters to learn something new so that I can pay it forward.

Update: Incidentally, I have been keeping tabs on that Facebook Page and fans are still dropping like flies!

Note: These are just a few perspectives. I have more—as should we all.

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Can You See the Picture Before Connecting the Dots?

When we were kids, I’m sure most of us enjoyed many a fascinating session with our “connect-the-dots” coloring books.  It was always such a mystery and we couldn’t wait until all the dots were connected and we got to behold the surprise within our handiwork.  It usually started with just a hodge-podge of numbers and dots that gave us barely an inkling of the picture it contained.

In life, the answer to many of our so-called mysteries and life’s questions are also contained in our big pictures of seeming numbers and dots.  It seems to me that the point at which we enter adulthood, we should somehow have figured this out. Yet most of the time we go about our lives blindfolded, not knowing the dots are even there for us to connect.  We often stumble and arrive at a point of surprise and say to ourselves something like, “If only I had seen this coming…”

So what does it take for us to connect the dots, to make pictures of really any event in our personal lives or in the world we live? Kids do this all the time, first of course, with the unfinished pictures on paper, and then with great imagination they do this with other facets of their growing lives, learning all the time as they connect the dots.  We as adults however, seem to have a more difficult time with the ever-etheric page that holds the answers to our questions.  Do we actually need an analytical mind to do this? No, but we at least have to want to participate in the craft and attempt in making our nebulous pictures take shape and come alive.

Unfortunately for some, this involves effort on their part, to take responsibility—be it for a global cause or just for their own sense of personal direction for the way they would like their lives to go. Many would rather have somebody else take the reins of their pen and connect the dots to their own pictures and even color it in for them.  Fortunately for the rest of us, we get to take the journey individually, connect our own dots and perhaps even figuring out our greater pictures as we go along, choosing our own colors and even deciding on whether we would like to add in new dots to the picture or make new pictures altogether.  There is a difference between getting a lesson or having someone else do it for you.  While the latter could be entertaining, it doesn’t give us the experience we need to make bigger and better pictures—and we never get to see our own pictures until “they” are finished! Can you perceive the differences?

So since so much of it is about effort and perspective, what happens when we get unknowingly involved in other people’s agendas?  This could be with people in our personal lives or even social or political movements.  Because of our direct or indirect involvement, we still have to connect the dots for ourselves in order for us to see their big picture and how we are affected. What happens when we avoid this vital participation? Let’s use a common example on a public scale.  When we vote on laws to be passed or vetoed by which we will become somehow either immediately or gradually affected, it would make sense for each of us as individuals to use our prism views and learn about these propositions in their entirety.  This would make for sensible and responsible citizenry. Many times, I have noticed we make these decisions based on face value of surface, cursory or group-think information.  How often have we experienced suddenly being in the midst of an enormous orchestrated arrangement which we either at first carelessly didn’t know about or actually were responsible for bringing about without realizing?  We witness this first-hand when the complaints begin in full-swing of indignation.  Even those who did nothing but stand by and let others do.  Now how many times has this happened to you in your personal lives with your own social or familial groups?  We often feel exploited, used and taken advantage, don’t we?

Well we aren’t victims.  How much better to have connected the dots as we behold the picture that is unfolding and realize that we have the ability, capability and freedom to continue when we like what we see or stop when we don’t like what’s being revealed and move on to another? We did it when we were children, we can do it now.

Note: These are just a few perspectives. I have more—as should we all.

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What’s So Phat About That?

How Language Changes Our Perception

Let’s face it, women love style and fashion, some boldly and some subtly.  I say subtly because most of us have some level of body issues that may mar our true view of who we really are.  I myself, love watching fashion makeover programs and reading fashion magazines, albeit with my own perceptual prismic view. I observe paying specific attention to the issues women face and the language used to change the public’s perception on image with which many stylists now perform their craft.  I love the fact that it has come to the public attention that real women have real bodies as a result of real life.  I do not love the fact that many stylists now tend to over-compensate for the inherent and underlying dilemmas that surface within body image issues that many women have.

As someone who is in the personal growth change-work business, I realize how useless mere positive-speak can be with many whose issues are deeply patterned into their beliefs over many years.  As a woman who at some time or other has also fallen prey to “evil” thoughts about body image, I may take offense to the propagandizing of industry versus reality.  I mean as a woman who has also dealt with weight issues from time to time, I wonder, have our deep-rooted beliefs about body image really changed since “curvy” has become the new fat? Curvy is absolutely an acceptable term as well as a flattering one, but please let’s put into perspective in those situations when curves are the natural part of a woman’s *vital statistics and when the curves are the result of fat accumulation! (*For the readers who are somewhat lost in the hype of this lost reference, that means our measurements of bust-waist-hips) There was a time when today’s version of curvy or plus-size was known as Rubenesque, named after the famous painter Peter Paul Rubens (1577 – 1640) who was infatuated with painting plump women with voluptuous full hips, full thighs and poochy tummies, which incidentally was the fashionable body-type of the times. When one mentioned the term “Rubenesque” we knew exactly what that meant and what it looked like.

At the risk of being indelicate with this sensitive subject, I ask why should this feature be sugar-coated? That’s how it all started in the first place—sugar-coated, butter-coated, cream-coated, crumb-coated…I could go on. I mean hasn’t this aspect of body-fat been sugar-coated enough in the physical sense without it being coated metaphorically too?  When I keep hearing the word curvy instead of a more tactful description of the reality, I wonder since when has it become taboo to use words like plump, heavy, large or overweight? I also now understand the standard industry gauge as different levels of curvy, such as “She’s curvier than you are…” when not really referring to actual curves.  The fact is when you’re comparing a woman who’s a size 2 with one who’s a 16, I’m sorry—but it is semantically incorrect to use “curvier” as an adjective! Well the news is, all women are curvy—thin, slender, petite, muscular, overweight or fat—it’s how we were anatomically designed. You can be voluptuous at any size, but true diplomacy using appropriate language gets your message across a lot more helpfully that shying away from honest integrity.

In this society’s attempt to make us “feel better” about ourselves as a result of this same society’s representation of the perfect, air-brushed model figure, have they perhaps once again, put us in a box—in this case, the dress box that still doesn’t quite fit? When you really see some stylists fitting a lovely woman into a fashion-trendy outfit that may not be too flattering on her, now telling her to accentuate her curves, without a discriminating eye; when there seems to be a clear difference between good curves and bad curves, they do us a disservice.  Using feel-good words and descriptions for inappropriate situations will often result in poorly outfitted “curvy” women who deserve a lot more respect than given.

But words influence us all and I realize that even when someone tells us we look good in something that doesn’t quite feel right kinesthetically, we know the difference. However, the skill involved in getting us to see ourselves less critically and highlighting our true assets is a whole other project. We understand that fashions in clothing are created and cut for different body types, don’t we? When they tell us that a larger sized woman can look just as good in a skimpy dress as a small sized woman, they are telling us that one-size fits all in the fashion sense. But does it? At which point does the hype get to us all and become a universally acceptable truth?

I reiterate, as someone in the change-work business, in promoting healing from the inside-out, stylists—please stop sugar-coating.  Dress us attractively as is wont of your talent and craft.  We will continue to look to you for guidance as long as you stay honest and keep us honest too.

“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. ” – Coco Chanel

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Some trends aren’t so flattering to all curves. Can you see the difference?

Note: These are just a few perspectives. I have more—as should we all.

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