Just recently, I had learned that my aunt who resides in Australia and in her early 80’s, had a fall and broke her hip. This was followed by a successful hip replacement. My aunt had been diagnosed 6 years ago with Peripheral Neuropathy and gradually had less and less flexibility in her movement. She is also someone who has always been mentally more youthful than her years, having been a singer/musician for a lengthy period of her life. Now her attending orthopedist had requested to review her tests and scans over the last 6 years. Upon review, he concluded that she had been misdiagnosed and does not have neuropathy at all. Good as a second opinion, right? He now also ascertained that reviewing her MRIs from 6 years ago, her brain had shrunk more than normal for a person of her then age and cannot understand how or why she does not have any sign or symptoms of dementia! (Really? Now I would definitely get a second opinion on that whole shrunken brain diagnosis!) He went ahead and ordered a new MRI to probe into this mystery. Her results showed that her brain hasn’t changed much in all this time and is now normal.
Which brings me to other perspectives on the subject, some of which I have been collaborating with my husband Jeff, about the language used by doctors generally in the concluding diagnoses they make and the ultimately baffling reality they cannot seem to reconcile. How do we gain the arrogance to make absolute sweeping statements about something that we know we don’t yet know everything about? In our field of healing within change-work, we understand that first of all, we don’t know everything there is to know about our mind-body processes, but we do know that our beliefs and what we tell ourselves, and ultimately our cells, has everything to do with it. We know how to educate others in communicating the right messages and dialogs to our body in order to affect the optimum healthy dynamic. In our line of teaching and learning, we know that while what we know we know is important, and what we know we don’t know will motivate us to learn more, realizing that what we don’t know we don’t know is the key to forever having the humility to gain further insight, knowledge, wisdom and understanding into the yet unknown realms of life.
Realizing that even doctors of western medicine who have studied and gained a vast array of knowledge about the human body in as much as understanding symptoms of diseases and the treatment of such, they still do not know what makes us tick and they do not know how healing happens on the meta-physical level. My aunt believed the doctor’s words six years ago that she had peripheral neuropathy and without a second opinion, readied herself for the progression of the disease declared by the doctor. All I can say now is, thank God he didn’t “notice” or pursue the shrunken brain business, giving her further preparation for onset dementia which she no doubt would have contracted by now! (Funny thing too about the usage of language “contracting” a disease—so binding!)
Jeff and I have learned much about health and healing and how beliefs and communication with oneself affects all of it. Some years ago, Jeff was invited to speak and facilitate a meditative healing session at a Parkinson’s disease conference. Our neurologist associate, who is also a movement disorder specialist, was very interested in the effects of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Design Human Engineering used for Parkinson’s and Stroke. We both listened very intently to the language used by all the featured speakers, including our associate and the neuro-surgeon. While our associate is a believer of integrative healing and had a more human approach, the presentations by all the doctors were more a fact-based approach of known evidence of the disease and delivered step-by-step sequential acceleration of the disease’s progression that patients should expect. When the conference took a break, we listened to the comments of the bypassing patients, most of them along the lines of “I feel more depressed now than when I got here!” Sad but true. And oh yes, depression is also one of the by-products of the disease! Well no wonder…since they had put their patients in further dis-ease!
In another instance, I know a woman who went to see a breast surgeon for a biopsy consultation to check for some abnormality. Feeling confident that the reputable facility had all her files regarding the issue, when the surgeon appeared, his first words to her were, “So I understand you’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer.” Her response? What? No! Clearly he was not familiar with her file or reason for being there, even though she had filled out countless forms, along with prior tests results leading to her consultation. Had she been someone who was not familiar with her own case, she would have taken him at his word and shrunk in fear and anxiety.
While I’m no doctor, I may be a healer of sorts and I know as my own truth that when we put our faith into the limitations of the medical encyclopedia we begin to believe with limitation. So why in all glory of the infinite possibilities we have been given, would we choose to restrict ourselves with someone else’s limited version of who we are and what we are to become?
Realizing this now, my foremost suggestion is always be aware of what you say to your body. Speak well of yourself and to yourself. Be all that you desire and more than you think you are, and stay well.