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Is All Fair in Love and War – and In-Between?

The other day I came across an article in the Washington Post by Charles Krauthammer about Hillary Clinton’s comment of praise regarding a known tyrant of a Middle-Eastern country, President Assad of Syria. The article was about how mixed remarks about clear objectives can cause confusion within our foreign policies.  This blog of course isn’t about our foreign policies or politics. It got me to thinking about diplomacy in terms of everyday choices we make in how we interact or convey our public views and personas. Is diplomacy fairness? Is it appeasement? Is it an avoidance of confrontations? Is it a need to secure future bridges? How clear or cloudy does it become?

Being fair isn’t about pleasing all sides or not taking any.  Being fair requires us to make a judgment, albeit a favorable one.  What does this mean, to judge favorably?  It means that regardless of what you are in favor or to what you oppose, your decision has to come from a place of knowing all the parts and sum of the parts, and their effects. Being fair is acknowledging the pros and the cons, doing the simple mathematics of the pluses and the minuses, and making a judgment call based on this.  And whose view is this based on? Yours, of course.  You may gain support with some and you may not with others. Feelings may be hurt, but others have the right to exercise this responsibility too.  No it’s not a whim or a frivolous fancy, it is a responsibility.

How do you feel about the concepts of judgment, justice, fairness and mercy? In today’s world are these just merely dogmas or are they to be incorporated into our everyday lives? What do you perceive of them each in their own merit and now, how do you feel when you combine them with say, attributes of wisdom, knowledge, understanding and even loving-kindness?  How does it feel to you when you combine justice with mercy? Or judgment with wisdom? How about knowledge with kindness? How much of an investment in these would you need in order to part the layers of chaos and confusion?  How would you enlighten and educate others with your view without the attached emotions and feelings of defensiveness? How do you balance your passion with your fear of being challenged and threatened? Defensiveness, fear and the vitriol sometimes attached—these are useless emotions that serve as barriers to true wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

In your prism view, the facets are like windows into another world, or another’s world and from which other realities can stem.  You can look in and learn; you don’t always have to embrace everything about them. They offer us an expansion in dimensional views so that we can make the best choices for us and those we love with less limitation.  Remember everything is connected in some way and every action or lack of action has its own ripple effect. When you next hear someone say things like, “It’s not fair”, “It’s cruel”, “It’s wonderful”, “It’s much needed”; remember to ask to whom, whose version and from whose perspective are you making that judgment call?

While it’s true that concepts of right and wrong, good and bad are something relative to the observer, awareness of how this relativity relates to others is an important and even valuable understanding.  It always seems that when the lines become fuzzy, we cross over into confusion. When we seek to please and appease the masses, however your masses are comprised, we run the risk of clouding our core knowledge of right and wrong, and then our judgment. On the other side, when our strong beliefs are attached to fear and loss we lose sight of our pure intention. Sometimes we are the mirrors that reflect others. When we look at ourselves, what and whom else do we honestly see reflected? When you make choices based on your fairness-meter, consider what comprises your beliefs and core understanding of your subject and look into your dimensional prism to compare the ripple effects of how you decide. It really could be more than an eye-opener in a life wake-up moment.